Job or partner?

**burner1** · 13th June 2008

My mates been told to feck off by his girlfriend of 3 years as he has taken a job offer abroad for at least a year, which will greatly enhance his job profile, income, prospects etc.

He did say he can get concession flights for her and he thought she would be all for it but no, so he's... I dunno tbh, angry, sad, feels let down by her I guess.

I used to experience similar when I was in the Army and had to travel a lot, and sometimes the girl I was seeing was ok about it, other times they weren't, so I told him it just shows her lack of character and long term belief in the relationship really and maybe they don't really know each other as well as they thought.

He's still going which is a good opportunity for him.

Wondering how many of you guys would do it? Or stay for a GF?

I totally understand people in a marriage or have kids etc. would probably say no (I turned down a stint in Iraq because of my kids, not that this mate is going there though).

**cronus71** · 13th June 2008

I believe you have to put yourself first. If you are not happy, not many people around you will be happy either.

From my own experience, I left one hell of a career, to follow my girlfriend to another country. Almost exactly one year later, the relationship ended and I had to go almost back to square one in my career, but was happy to have the chance to start over.

Job first.

**the.insane** · 13th June 2008

i'd go for the job offer, if the bith isnt happy, then feck her off and get another bitch, problem solved.

**Mobileman** · 13th June 2008

Post a pic it may help me decide lol

**crazyadi** · 13th June 2008

Originally Posted by Mobileman

Post a pic it may help me decide lol

lol

**whatnow** · 14th June 2008

if ur job means u have to travel away, it might always be the case, if your girl can't stick with you during that, long distance or come with, then it's obviously not going to work.

from the above answer I think it's obvious what I'd choose

**russbeer** · 14th June 2008

It all depends on your relationship with said bird... if you have feelings for your woman different to those you've had for other women and you think she could be "the one" then I say you should stay for her, I know i would without a doubt.

The job would have to be something spectacular for me to even consider it.

**CzarJunkie** · 14th June 2008

Self-fulfilment should never be underestimated, neither should the inevitable cancer that will eat away at their relationship should he opt to stay at home.

If she doesn't support his move, she's not the one for him.

**BertRoot** · 14th June 2008

Have to agree with the above. Your needs should come first unless there are kids involved. If the bitch cannot cope with change then she ain't worth knowing. How about when he presents his cock to the back door or brings another woman home for a threesome. It is doomed really...

**Freddy** · 14th June 2008

Pack the cunt in. Simple.

**petey85** · 14th June 2008

If she can't take that, then it won't work long-term. Stupid bint aint worth it.

**B B Leo** · 14th June 2008

get ride of the girl! if shes starting that now what would it be like in ten years

**flumperino** · 14th June 2008

I think it depends on the situation....but personally i think that, after 3 years, suddenly saying that you're off for a year is a big ask.

**Mario87** · 15th June 2008

Id knob her one last time (in the shitter of course), then go catch my flight....

**Over Carl** · 15th June 2008

I remember I had this one teacher at school who while he seemed like a clever man, had a very cynical and apathetic outlook on life, and we suspected he liked a drink as well.

Can't remember how we found out his story - he used to be very good with computers back in the day. Was given an offer to do something big with microsoft back in about 81, but his mrs didn't want to move to america. Year later he found her cheating on him with one of his mates.