I appreciate this isnt a "normal" subject to discuss,but Im looking for information.
I realise that there wont be too many medical professionals on here,but there may be members that have life experience of cancer.
My mother in law has been diagnosed with cancer.She is a widow,with 3 daughters,and I seem to be the nominated "man".
The cancer was diagnosed in the oesophagus originally.Its now been found to have spread to the stomach lining and liver.
This has all been over the past 8 weeks or so.
We eventually met the oncologist from the "Beatson" yesterday,but he told us very little.
He more of less said,do you want chemotherapy or not,and avoided all specific questions.Sign of the times I suppose.
My Mother-In_Law immediately said yes.
We have arranged another meeting to ask more questions.
The most pressing question is of course,how long has she got,and is the suffering of chemo worth it,for a short life extension.
But,how do you ask that,when she doesnt want to know.
She knows she cant be cured,but believes(wrongly) that as long as she goes along with it,all will be ok.Denial I suppose.
Sorry for rambling on,but I feel ive read,and know more than them and,whilst optimism is a great medicine,reality has to kick in sometime.
The family think she's got years,I think its more like months,and am concerned that chemo will only make her suffer more than she has to.
Any advice or personal experiences appreciated.
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