My Friend told me he's a she

[beerman]

Right I know this should probably be on the Jeremy kyle show but this has completely freaked me out. I've known and worked closely with this guy for the last 3 years.

He's just been made redundant and told me the day he left that there would be some major changes in his life but kept quiet about what. We've kept in contact since he left through email.

I knew he's been going through a divorce but didn't think anything of it. He asked me through email why I thought he spent so much time with human resources. I immediatley thought he's been banging one of them and thought maybe that's why he's getting the divorce.
He sent the same email to another work collegue and he'd jokingly replied with ??sex change??

That's when the clanger was dropped. He replied with "was it that obvious" I wasn't copied in on that mail so my collegue called me over to show me what this big mystery was.

WTF

There on full display on the t'internet were pictures of my ex work collegue dressed up as a lady. Did I say WTF?

This is a guy so into modifying subarus and mitsis that he talks in chassis numbers? A guy with a wife and a seven year old kid? A guy that I had NOOOOO idea was living a secret life dressed up as a woman.

He says it's been going on fo a while and is already done the road to become a woman. He's been taking hormone pills since September (I'd noticed him getting man boobs but thought he was just putting on weight). Has changed his name by deed poll to Caroline. Has told his parents and obviously his wife. He's also having laser surgery but I don't know what that's for (facial hair maybe??)

He said next time we meet up it'll be as Caroline and not HIM as he puts it.

I'm not homomphobic as I have a few gay friends but this is a whole new ball game. I've known the guy as a bloke and now I have to get to know him as a woman? I'm confused. He said he wanted to tell us before but said there never was a good time.

Has anyone else had experience in this sort of area? (I'm sure CJ has )
And why do I keep thinking of David Walliams saying "I'm a lady" in a high pitch voice.

[crack_it]

i dunno wot 2 say m8 i feel a bit strange reading that aswell n i dont even know you or him lol if id jst found out that id b havein a few pints n thinkin wtf wanna c the replys to this i bet u r a bit messed up by it all

[coin-op]

Homophobic doesn't come into it.

The guy/soon to be gal is not gay, just believes that he is more suited to living life as a woman. Takes a lot of guts to overcome all the prejudices so fair play to him - soon to be her.

[marcode]

thats a bit of a mind-**** lol..

[phlix]

Brave bloke ... mind you that kind a thing totally changes people, don't expect him/her to be the same.

I had a mate who came out, he became the biggest bitchy queen going. So much so I can't be bothered with him any more.

[ZX7R]

Knightmare. Just think how difficult it will be to buy the right birthday and christmas present now. You used to be able to get away with a video game or DVD. Now, damn, perfume? Knickers? Saloon vouchers? Good luck.

[BertRoot]

Ask if you can break him in after the op. ;-)

[shadowdancer]

totally mind bender but I guess if you and his(her) other friends can get used to it and accept it then things would be a lot easier for him(her).

is he planning the full monty ? get the cock and balls chopped off ?

either that or he could have a good career in pr0n.

[Epiphany]

Just remember, she's still the same person you knew before, just in a different shell.

Takes A LOT of guts to do something like that. Even more so with a wife and kids.

[phlix]

No he's not ... he's now a woman ... so he'll he'll act totally differently.

[diablos]

F**k her/him if she's no good dont phone her back problem solved..

[CzarJunkie]

He's been taking hormone pills since September (I'd noticed him getting man boobs but thought he was just putting on weight). Has changed his name by deed poll to Caroline.

Buhahahahahahaaaa

Has he got androgynous qualities or is he going to look like Geoff Capes in a dress?

[Porthos]

Will he still love scoobies and mitsis or was that just an act?

[beerman]

No he's not ... he's now a woman ... so he'll he'll act totally differently.

That was my point how can I know someone as a bloke one day then a woman the next. Clearly he has changed.

[BertRoot]

Clearly he has changed.

You are right. Between his legs will look like roadkill.

[beerman]

Will he still love scoobies and mitsis or was that just an act?

Well he's sold his Subaru and just brought a Saxo VTR but I think that was more a financial decision as the Subaru is costing him a fortune to run and he's now moved out of his family home and basically started again.

I found out a bit more about how long it's been going on for. Apparently he's known since he was 12. This just threw me even more.
Why get married and have a kid if he's known all along? I'm still trying to get me head round this

[BertRoot]

All this woman trapped inside a mans body rubbish is precisely that, rubbish. If they could prove genetically that they are a woman then fair enough. I would be interested in his upbringing. Was his mother desperate for a daughter and treat him as one? Did he have big sisters who made him stick his chap between his legs to play with them and he found that he liked it? Is he just after somewhere to keep loose change and to aid him in shoplifting?

[beerman]

All this woman trapped inside a mans body rubbish is precisely that, rubbish. If they could prove genetically that they are a woman then fair enough. I would be interested in his upbringing. Was his mother desperate for a daughter and treat him as one? Did he have big sisters who made him stick his chap between his legs to play with them and he found that he liked it? Is he just after somewhere to keep loose change and to aid him in shoplifting?

That's exactly what I'm trying to get my head round, what sort of thing triggers this (if anything) or is it genetic?

[neilcritc]

I have been through a similar experience a friend from college known him 5 years. Was engaged to be married. Decided he wanted to be a woman not a man... Even created his own website of his experience absolute mind $$$$. Managed to support him/her through ordeal. BUT it screwed my head up, the guy was 6ft 3 built like a brick sh$thouse.!

[CzarJunkie]

I once had a crush on this sort.......

Spoiler:

Image my surprise and disgust when I found out it used to be a local comedian. Ewwwww........